• Missionary Kids/TCK's,  Missions

    Once an MK, Always an MK

    It’s not my purpose to use this blog as an outlet for my own story and experiences, but from time to time things take up too much space in my mind and heart until they are freed on paper. Up until last week it had been quite a while since I remember having that distinct “MK feeling”.  It comes much less frequently than it used to.  It’s a difficult feeling to put into words but for me it resembles a surreal mix of melancholy, sadness, wonder, grief, and joy.  It’s an acute awareness that I am small in the world; that belonging, life, and home are relative; that in fact…

  • Missionary Kids/TCK's,  Missions

    My MK Heritage, by Marc Gibbs

    Perhaps not so unique after all… I don’t remember a time where I have begrudged my MK (missionary kid) upbringing. In fact, I am pretty sure I gave it rather little thought until I moved to the US. For all intents and purposes I grew up like another French kid.  I just happened to be bi-lingual. In fact any marked difference from my school mates came more from the fact that I was a practicing protestant in a world of nominal Catholics and less from the fact of my American origins. I of course had a distinct advantage being Caucasian growing up in Western Europe.  I didn’t stand out in…

  • Missionary Kids/TCK's,  Missions

    How to Ruin Furlough For Your Kids

    #1-  Don’t talk about It Definitely, the last thing you want to do is talk about it!  We’re scared!  We’re all scared!  And stressed!  Why would we want to talk about that?!   It’s best just to pretend it’s not happening.   They don’t even need to know why you’re packing up the house. No, no, no.  That’s backwards!  It’s happening, you can’t change it.   Acknowledge the emotions that go along with the transition and give your children the freedom to share their feelings with you or someone else.  Think about your own emotions.  Even as adults we sometimes have difficulty processing our own feelings, how much more for…

  • Missionary Kids/TCK's,  Missions

    “MK’s are just different”: 2 Pitfalls of a Common Mindset

    If you are connected to the missions world in any way you may be thinking “what in the world is this girl talking about?!”  I hope you’ll hear me out.  If you want to accuse me of MK heresy after you’ve read this I welcome your thoughts.  But only after you’ve read the entire post. For better or worse, MK’s generally grow up in a world that emphasizes their distinctions. This may show up as a result of churches spotlighting or praising their family’s service at every opportunity. It will inevitably show up in the process of moving, meeting new people, attempting to explain where they are from and what…

  • Missionary Kids/TCK's,  Missions

    My MK Life: Redefining Our Differences

    It’s taken me a long time to drum up the courage to write these words. Not because of any major difficulty or traumatic event, but simply because it’s the story of my own life. And that, obviously, is very personal. We live our lives typically feeling they are nothing extraordinary and often not really paying attention to the way God has woven our story together through the years. That’s true for me anyway. But then somewhere along the way He starts to show us how the dots connect. And then if we’re really lucky we have friends and family who encourage us to share our story with others, because just…